Alexis Turns From Loving Sister to Spiteful Cruelty
It is amazing that Alexis waited so long to tell me my father died. As we talked about it on the third day after my father died she knows exactly where I am in this world (in Spain) and the time difference. As the joker, Steven Steer thinks everyone should be the psychic and just “feel” the day my father died, I am not the psychic and was entirely depended on my family, my two sisters, to make sure I was notified. But they did not. Edward Siegel died January 31, 2017 early in the morning, Alexis Siegel called me on Feb 2 at 7pm. That is at least 2 and a half days late and 18 hours before the funeral, given time zones.
Alexis knew at the time she called I could not fly in time for the funeral.
This audio portion shows after I realized I could not take part in the funeral I was no longer concerned with my own pain but more interested in distracting her from the pain she was displaying. However she then talked about meeting with various people, calls she had made, but I certainly wonder why one of those calls was not first made to let me know OUR father died. It starts with my own pain and disbelief that I could not make it and shows I quickly moved to try and get my sister to think of other things.
But she went on to tell me all the meetings she had, places she went, and people she talked to before she decided to call me. Regretfully for me she waited until there was no time for me to fly in.
So Alexis emailed me:
“No, you went on and on about some fucking computer part stuck in customs, whatever bullshit. Again, I had to interrupt you to tell you he had died. So, you can have your perspective on this and I will have mine. You are a selfish and cruel human being.” Alexis Jan Siegel
As you listen you can hear the start of our conversation and see if it matches what Alexis writes.
In this part of the audio recording, made some 18 hours before the funeral (when Alexis finally decided to let me know my father died), you can hear two loving siblings working out just how I can have some part in the funeral. Alexis agreed to use her iphone to record some of the event, ask some questions about our family tree from uncles and aunts, and get back to me. After the conspiracy of the sisters in removing me from the funeral it is all I could hope for.
I waited until the 7th of February for her to get back to me but there was no call, no email, nothing. So I called to see what happened, reminding her that she was my eyes and ears and had promised to get back to me, I only got her answer machine. For that she sent an awful email:
“Perhaps you are really pissed now, that so many people were worried about me and extending their love to me, when poor Ricky is his only son. Well, You just continue to be myopic, hateful, and guilty. You just continue to twist things around to fit your poor battered son story and live your current life in that dysfunctional emotional state.” Alexis Jan Siegel
Now I know there is a psychological state for all this. Certainly I am not “pissed” that many people cared about Alexis. But Alexis is blocking out the facts, like wanting desperately to let all to think she called within 24 hours of my fathers death, which would have allowed me to get in for the funeral. Without that lie she must carry the truth that she did wait too long and is to blame, so she clings to this lie that she called within 24 hours, not knowing that I have the recordings from our phone conversations. Conveniently omitting the truth from all conversations and even her own mind. She also would rather focus herself to a form of hate because hate is easier to deal with than mourning. And who better to focus hate on than Rick, who had always taken the blame for negative things.
I am pretty certain Alexis believes I should have come in long before my father died to sit in the hospital and watch him deteriorate until death. Because I did not, I should be punished and she would be the one to do the punishing by waiting it out until I could not get to Chicago for the funeral. Again one might think that Myra, who before this was considered to be more considerate, was in no way considerate or even caring as she was carrying horrid fantasies and twisted memories. Turns out Myra had some deep seated psychotic ideas and hidden hate for me. It would be insane to believe Alexis and Myra had not talked the day my father died. In that same vein one might understand that they asked each other if I had been told, and since no one called for days, it was agreed that I should not be included. The one thing Myra wrote to me at this time was something she should have grasped and applied to herself too:
“We all have something, but it is the past and you need to stop holding on to all the bitterness and hatred that goes along with these twisted memories of yours.” Myra Lynn Smith
I am writing all this to get some kind of release and get this awful garbage off my chest and out of my mind. As I worked years at expanding the family tree the one thing I see, and seems our uncle Buddy agrees, we have one screwed up family on the Siegel side. Lucky for me I still have the Taussig and Stadler side (my mothers side) and they not only understood family, but still work to keep the family hive buzzing. I hate not having my sisters around and communicating, but it seems to be a massive burden on them and that is a burden on me. So I embrace the other side of the family as the Siegel side dies off one by one without ever holding on to their roots or even their current living relatives. So sad.
I can only hope that one day my sisters “twisted memories” wake up and they realize they have one brother, who, after you listen to the full call with Alexis, was so quick to forgive the fact that they did not inform me of my fathers death or funeral until they could be there without my being allowed to pay my respects directly there and then.
In the meantime I will expand my mothers website and find more information from or about my father, if there is anything to add. I will have to live out my life with the memories, as they fade, of the good times with my sisters and ignore this episode as best I can. These pages will help relieve me of the burden to carry the twisted pathetic actions they took. This is not to make them look bad, but to show the realities as best as I can with the actual emails and audio recordings for history. This site will live on long after all of us.